Do you talk to yourself? Sure you do! We all have what’s called running dialogue going off in our heads. Heck, some people even talk to themselves out loud. Our inner running dialogue is some of the most important and most influential conversations we have. When we have healthy inner dialogue things are great, when we don’t, they can get negative really fast.
Do you Have an Inner Critic?
Critics are everywhere. There’s always someone ready to point out what’s wrong and give their commentary on every failure they see. Some people live with an inner critic. Their own voice is often the most negative one in their lives. Do you have an inner critic? How do you know if you do? Here’s some examples-
Inner critics are demeaning- The inner critic is demeaning and judgmental. Not only does the inner critic judge other people harshly, but it also tells you that you’re not enough, not doing things right, or unworthy.
Inner critics are mean- The inner critic uses your biggest fears against you. Since no one knows you better than you, there’s plenty of ammunition for the inner critic to use. The inner critic can be downright mean which can lead to anxiety and depression.
Inner critics are hopeless and helpless- The inner critic doesn’t believe in anything positive. It tells you that you can’t, shouldn’t, won’t, will regret, or be sorry. The inner critic stops dreams and defeats hopes.
How to Stand up to your Inner Critic
Here’s the thing, your inner critic isn’t real. The guy or gal spouting off in your head is imaginary and that means you can take control of your thoughts. You can stand up to your inner critic and get control of your mind.
Become keenly aware of your critical thoughts- Many people live with an inner critic and never put two and two together. They don’t even realize that there’s dialogue going off in their heads. The next time you feel negative, stop and pay close attention to the thoughts you are having.
Keep record of your triggers and patterns- Your inner critic loves re-runs and replays the same thoughts over and over again. Pay close attention to what triggers your inner critic. Jot down the triggers in a journal or keep them in a note on your smartphone. Look for patterns as you collect the data over time. Once you see consistent patterns you can make a game plan to override your inner critic.
Join the debate club- Your inner critic has an opinion, but you can offer a counter opinion. The next time your inner critic offers up negative points, interject some positive counter points. Argue on your own behalf for what is possible, what could go right, and what’s good and right about yourself and your thoughts.
Your running dialogue is some of the most important and most influential conversations going on in your life. It’s vital to keep the inner critic from taking over your thoughts, confidence, and behaviors. Combat your inner critic and force it to submit to your positive mindset.
