While anyone can push your boundaries and cause you discomfort, there are certain types of folks who tend to do so on a regular basis. These difficult people have personality traits and behavioral characteristics that can cause you a great deal of strain. Even people you love and care about can fall into this category, unfortunately. We all have such individuals in our lives. Sometimes you can learn to manage their problematic personalities. Other times, you may need to give them the boot. Before taking any action or making a decision regarding the place of such people in your life, you’ll first have to learn to recognize them. Keep reading below to learn about some of the most common traits of difficult people to see if you recognize any of the perpetrators within your own close circles.
The Complainer
Most of us encounter this type at one time or another. The complainer rarely has anything positive to say. They are constantly complaining about something. Sometimes, these complaints are things that cannot be changed, such as the weather. Often, the complainer would simply rather moan and groan than actually do the work to make change. You can usually handle sporadic encounters with a complainer, but a person who is constantly negative around you can have adverse effects on your overall well-being. It’s possible you may even find yourself developing a similar negative mindset if you’re with this person frequently enough.
The Yeller
Do you have someone in your life who is often angry and who takes that anger out on those around them through yelling or screaming? If so, you probably find yourself constantly on-edge around them, waiting for the next thing that will set them off. This type of person is likely emotionally abusive and is terrible for your mental health. They can damage your self-confidence and leave you feeling worthless.
The Know-It-All
Everyone is familiar with a know-it-all. This type of person always thinks they have the answers and is quick to offer their opinion, even when it wasn’t requested. The know-it-all can really get on your nerves. They can also cause you to feel less than if you fall prey to believing they may be correct. In reality, these people tend to be incredibly insecure and are overcompensating for how inadequate they feel they are.
The Pessimist
The pessimist can be a real downer. They never see the bright side and think every experience is going to turn out badly. These are the folks who will tell you they tried that before and it didn’t work, so you shouldn’t even bother making an attempt. They can kill morale and keep progress from occurring. Their negative attitude can be contagious.
These are just four of the more common types of negative people who have probably encountered in your life. The common trait these folks have is that being around them regularly makes you feel negatively. This negative spirit can invade various aspects of your life and cause you difficulties. The important thing is to pay attention when you notice yourself constantly feeling badly around a certain person and then try to determine the cause of these negative feelings. Doing so will help you to pinpoint whether the individual is someone who is constantly disrespecting your boundaries and bringing you down. You can then decide what to do about the issue.
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