Denial is an obstacle to a well-connected mind and body. Denial prevents good people from admitting their behaviors are a contributing factor to the results they have. Denial isn’t born from a blatant disregard for health or well-being. It’s generally born from
- Fear
- Anger
- Worry
- Anxiety
These feelings disrupt the mind and body connection by shoving away unwanted feelings in lieu of self-comfort or a sense of control. Some feelings are just too big to manage without great courage… and some help.
Facing your fears may seem really hard or nearly impossible. If what you fear were easy to conquer, you’d have done it long ago, right? The truth is fear is turned upside down when you think of it like this….
- False
- Evidence
- Appearing
- Real
Many times, the things you fear aren’t as bad as you might think. Fear comes from the worry that a problem is too big to be solved. If you set about identifying the problem and tackling it, the fear will diminish… or, become something that motivates you.
The first step for fighting fear is to face it – Admitting you are afraid and willing to tackle your fear is the first step. Whether you confess your fear to someone else or you simply stand firm in your inner dialogue, facing your fear will begin to diminish it.
The second step is identifying the problems that need to be solved. Once you’ve determined to face your fears, it’s time to solve your problems. If your problem seems insurmountable, it’s best to break it down into smaller problems that you can dissect and break apart. What is the first step you can take to solve the smallest part of your problem?
The third step is to take action – Once you’ve broken down your problem into something manageable, take action. Step out in faith and begin to work things out. Notice how the fear peaks and subsides as you begin to get traction towards solving your problems.
The fourth step is to assess and modify your actions – Finally, as you attack the micro aspects of your major problem, assess and modify your actions. Enlist help if you need it. As you become more confident and less fearful, you’ll be able to be more assertive and self-assured while you tackle the tasks that stop your fear and solve your problems.
Fear’s no joke. It stops people from taking action and disconnects their mind and body. Taking action, facing your fears, and tackling your problems reconnects your mind and body and reminds you how powerful you are.
