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A mind that is disconnected from the body is usually influenced by one of three thieves – ignorance, blame, and/or avoidance. From what we don’t know hurting us to blaming others for what we don’t have, these thieves steal our power and keep the disconnection strong and wide.

Blame is a powerful motivator against taking action. Blame centers on someone else being the reason you aren’t experiencing the life you want. Focusing blame on someone else – or on other circumstances – robs you of the tools you need to take control and override the blame game.

Typical ways people experience blame include

• Feeling controlled by others
• Attributing lack to something outside their control
• Failing to accept personal responsibility
• Feeling undervalued

Feeling hopeless or helpless through no fault of our own is a mindset issue that manifests in the body and environment. Many people who blame others struggle with poor health, poor personal appearance, and surroundings that don’t reflect who they truly are.

This results in:

• Being a martyr
• Passive aggressiveness
• Becoming withdrawn
• Depression

Blaming others won’t change anything. The longer you place blame, the longer you stall your ability to take charge and ownership of your power. People who use blame as justification for not taking action allow themselves to believe that outside circumstances are more powerful than they are. This simply isn’t true.

While extreme cases of control and abuse do exist, most people who cast blame are, in fact, unwilling or have been unable to take the steps needed to step up to the plate and do one of the following:

• Confront someone’s behavior
• Set healthy boundaries
• Solve complex problems
• Change their environment

Taking action will shift the tides. Doing what must be done happens when the pain of staying the same is worse than the pain of making change. Don’t let blame stand in the way of your mind and body connection.

Try one of these ideas and see the shift happen:

Confronting a controlling person – Sometimes people are unaware that they are having a negative impact on others. Confront someone you’ve been blaming about their behavior in a healthy way. Share how their actions have made an impact on you and that you want to change this dynamic moving forward.

Solve a complex problem – People who are overwhelmed by the enormity of a problem tend to blame to avoid tackling the issues. Solving a large problem can be done. Break the problem down into manageable pieces and tackle them one-by-one. If you don’t have the knowledge base or resources, seek someone out who can help navigate your steps. The sooner you solve the problem, the sooner you can stop blaming. 

The blame game disrupts the mind and body connection by putting power into the hands of another. Your mind wars with itself, agonizing over the injustice or unfairness. Getting past blame and taking action is empowering and restores the mind and body connection.